The Ugly Truth About Sex After Infidelity – Can You Handle It?

Rebuilding your sexual relationship with an unfaithful husband after having a deal can be a difficult situation. Between the two, there is a lot of emotion, confusion and self-awareness that must be managed to create a safe environment for intimacy.

To make matters worse, sex becomes as much of a roller coaster as your feelings are. Sometimes it does not get good enough, and there are things that should (or should not) have been done. You want him to kiss you there, or don't touch you at all. You want him to do it right, or don't do it at all. It will be times he will pull out all the stops short of turning from a chandelier with a rose tucked between his teeth and you will still be rude.

For most men, sexual intimacy is one of their simplest forms of communication and feedback, especially after a deal. Sexual intimacy does not mean much oral expression, but it is still possible that sex does not become easy for him either. He may lack his sexual relationship with the other woman, even though he has made a clear decision to save your marriage or committed relationship. He may also find it difficult to maintain an erection out of guilt or fear that if he does not perform as you please, you still think he is lurking on you. Anxiety can impede his sexual performance in other ways, making him absent and uncomfortable.

On the other hand, he can also drive you at the highest speed for the sex, because he thinks it is a method of proving that he still loves you. Many women react unfavorably, provided their men see them as a sexual object, but we do not ask that. If he primarily connected to you with sex before the deal, chances are that he will continue to do so after the deal.

Another challenge to having sex again after a deal is about the other woman. She will continue to be part of your sex life long after she has been removed from the picture. Your husband can think of her desire, fantasize about her or ask for her and maybe also feel guilty about it too. You also come to think of her, perhaps wondering how you compare with her or in an angry way. When either or both of you channel her mentally during sex, this will bring down the passion in your bedroom.